While being in an interfaith marriage can be fun and romantic, it can also present difficult challenges. Being married is all about compromise, and in an interfaith marriage, more than likely, you are going to have to give up a little more than someone who marries in their own religion. However, if you respect each other, and have a loving relationship, it won't be as difficult as it sounds.
Listed below are a few coping strategies for your interfaith marriage.
- When you are planning the wedding, make sure you include both religions and their traditions. You may want to have two different ceremonies.
- If you are in a relationship where the two of you have different religions, don't try to change the person by trying to change their religion.
- Try to find a common ground. Make a list of things both religions have in common.
- Don't ignore your spouses' religion. Your spouses' religion is very important to them, so ask questions and try to be a part of their religion as much as possible.
- Try to make time to find out more about your spouses' religion. The more you know, the easier it is to communicate and discuss religious issues with your spouse.
- If you are in an interfaith relationship, try to find time to visit each other's place of worship. This will help you learn more about your spouse and the issues they deal with on a day to day basis regarding their religion.
- Don't bring your parents into the situation, unless it becomes absolutely necessary. If your parents decide that they want you to do something about your marriage, tell them you will handle the situation and assure them that things will be fine.
- If you have children, decide whether they will learn about one religion or both. When they get older, let them decide which religion they want to worship and support them, and don't put any pressure on them to make a decision.
With love, compassion, and compromise, an interfaith marriage can last forever. If all else fails, you can try marriage counseling. Counselor's can help the both of you find a common ground in your interfaith marriage.