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Self Esteem

The way a person views himself is defined as self-esteem

Self-esteem is a psychological mechanism that helps shape and define the image people create of themselves. It is the way they feel about themselves, their self-worth, self-importance, self-reliance, self respect, and other internal self-assessments that make up their being. In other words, self-esteem can be defined as the opinion you hold of yourself.

If you see yourself as a person of high standards and have a relatively high opinion of yourself, you are thought to have high self-esteem. On the other hand, if you don't see yourself as being worthy or have a low opinion of yourself, you are said to have low self-esteem.

Self-esteem is shaped by many things in life such as family, friends, teachers, coaches, bullies, where people live, the environment, the workplace, income, health and welfare, death, and other events thought processes.

The effect your self-esteem has on you boils down to how you internalize things that have an impact on your life. It plays a vital role in the way you live, how you act, and how you think others look at you and how you think others will respond to you.

There are those who can sense whether you have high self-esteem or low self-esteem within moments of meeting you and will treat you accordingly. Some will treat you good while others will try to bully you. This is especially true with children, but many adults are bullied and disrespected, too.

There are varying degrees of self-esteem and more than anything, it depends on the individual. It is not a stationary anomaly. A person can have low self-esteem and then, one day, gain self-confidence, self-importance, self assurance, and come out of his shell. His or her self-esteem may rise to new heights.

On the other hand, a person who has always had high self-esteem may find himself in a tailspin, lose all self-esteem and end up depressed and in the dumps. However, if a person loses their self-esteem, it can be regained just as a person with a low self-image can gain high self-esteem and then lose it again. At any rate, a person's self-esteem is not cast in stone.

As with all things, there are different degrees of self esteem, self confidence, and self worth. Self-esteem, whether high, low, or anywhere in between, permeates within our very being and either holds us back, keeps us in what is considered a normal range of progression, or sends us ahead of the crowd.

It starts from the time you are born and lasts throughout your entire life. It is reflected in the way you live, the way you treat others, the way others treat you, and most importantly, the way you feel about yourself.

Those who are born with high self esteem are considered outgoing, self confident, and have the potential of being good leaders. Others are shy, humble, and unable to muster up the courage to boldly go before their peers to make strong and definitive actions.

Some people are happy with their lot in life. They are confident and strong willed but don't want to lead or be the life of the party. They are satisfied with who they are and like being anonymous and left out of the spotlight.

Others relish attention, embellish the idea of being in command, and like the attention they get from others. They have a strong desire to be successful and they go out of their way to make sure that they stand out in the crowd.

Many people with low self-esteem want to stand out in the crowd but they can't. The problem lies within their psychological profile and it takes work to break free of low self esteem. They try very hard, take self help seminars and classes, read confidence building books and work hard to boost their own self image.

Children are especially hard hit when they have low self-esteem. In most cases, it is hard to recognize and understand how a child is feeling and since the child has lived all of his or her life in this shell, they think it's normal. They may not be able to express how they see themselves and most parents are to busy with their lives to recognize the situation.

Low self-esteem in children, and many adults, is associated with physical abuse, high expectations from adults and peers, teasing, and emotional degradation. It can cause such mental anguish that those with low self-esteem often rebel against authority, become alcoholics, drug abusers, commit murder and other serious crimes, hurt themselves, or commit suicide.

Even if parents do all the right things to encourage their child, the child may still suffer from low self esteem. Children need positive reinforcement all the time and should be made to feel that they are worthy and important. They should be treated with respect, given attention, listened to, complimented for the good things they do, and accepted for who they are.

Your own thoughts are the key to how you control your self-esteem. You have to find the right balance in your life and understand that it's not what other's think of you or what you think other's think of you that is important. The real key to your happiness and success boils down to what you think of yourself.

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