Meeting Your Future Inlaws
The day has finally arrived when you take your girlfriends hand and ask her to marry you. When, or if, she answers "yes," you breath a sigh of happiness and relief, then you start thinking about the next hurdle, meeting her mom and dad, especially if you haven't already met them.
It's an easier task if you grew up around the corner from her, or at least in the same neighborhood, or if the two of you dated in high school, and you have visited her family's home and you already know them.
But what if you've never met her mother and father, and you just asked their daughter to marry you, what are you going to do?
Here are some tips to help you get over your anxiety and to show your future inlaws that you love their daughter and you want to take her hand in marriage.
- Make sure you know a little something about your future in laws. It's very important to have something to talk about when you meet your future inlaws There is nothing worse than sitting at the dinner table with nothing to talk about. Do your homework and ask your fiance to tell you things about them so you will have something interesting to talk about.
- Dress for the occasion. First impressions are everything, so dress appropriately, but remember, don't overdo it. Wear a comfortable outfit and make sure that you are well groomed.
- Bring a gift. If you are meeting your future inlaws at their home, bring a nice bouquet of flowers and a bottle of champagne. This will let them know that you are sincere, kind, and ready to be part of their family.
- Arrive on time. One of the worst things to do is keep your future inlaws waiting because you are running late. If you are running late, call your fiance and her them know you'll be a little late. If you think that you are going to be more than an hour late, it may be a good idea to reschedule for another time.
- Be ready to answer tough questions. If you haven't met your future inlaws, there is a possibility they will ask you how they can be assured that you won't cheat or do anything to hurt their child. You must be ready to answer questions like that, although they may not be asked. But if you are not ready to respond if you are blind sided, they may have doubts you, and about the marriage.
- Talk about yourself a little. It's important to get to know your new inlaws, but it's equally important for them to get to know you also. Let them get to know your personal side by telling them where you work, things about your family, friends, and what you like to do in your spare time.
- Smile and laugh when appropriate. It will let her parents know that you are confident, and it's an invitation for them to let their guards down and smile back. Even though you are nervous, don't show it by wearing a fake smile.
- Avoid taking telephone calls. It is rude to keep answering your cell phone while in the presence of your future inlaws. To avoid unnecessary calls, tell your family and friends that you are meeting your future inlaws and it is important that you not be disturbed unless it if very important.
- Don't argue with your fiance in front of their parents and try to avoid any conflict with your fiance. It gives the impression that the two of you are already having problems, which will give them an opportunity to question whether you and their daughter should be together permanently.
- Avoid looking at your fiance to answer questions that her parents have asked you. Look your future inlaws in their eyes and answer their questions as honestly as you can.
- Before you leave, make sure you tell them how much you enjoyed their company and that you look forward to seeing them again.
Meeting your future inlaws can be a good experience if you have confidence and the right attitude. Always remember that your fiance's parents only want what is best for their child, and what you say and do will affect their opinion of you.
Make sure that you are polite, and mind your manners. After you've met your future inlaws, do a follow up by sending them a thank you card, or a note thanking them for their time and support of your marriage.