Love Is Not Sex And Sex Is Not Love
Many people, especially those who are young and less experienced in the realm of sex and love, have a notion that love is somehow the same thing as sex, and if you have sex with someone, it automatically means that love is somehow involved.
While living lifestyles that are fast and free, we sometimes overlook the obvious while in the corridors of sex and love. Love takes second place to sex in many relationships, while sex is used as a way to get a fleeting moment of happiness.
Happiness is not really happiness when you open your eyes and see that there was nothing ever there to have made you feel like it was worth your time in the first place, and what you thought you had is gone, so all you can do is move on to the next stop.
Just because you had a deep devotion, a strong sexual passion, and an overflowing barrel of hope imbedded in your heart, you mistakenly thought that you would receive the same in return. You mistakenly thought that having sex would automatically turn to love, but it didn't.
How many stops do you have to make before you find truth in real love and happiness? Maybe, before you make another stop, you should take a hard look at what lies before you.
Will there be more heartbreak and another dead end? Will there be an unwanted pregnancy, an abortion, or will you have to put a child up for adoption? Will there be a sexually transmitted disease (STD)? Will the next relationship be abusive?
There are so many unanswered questions that gnaw at the soul when sex is used for love. Sex is not love and love is not sex. It becomes a well earned lesson in the realities of what transpires every day in the real world. You are not alone.
At times, we get so caught up in our own little world that we are blinded by our own insufficient measurements of self worth that we put on ourselves, our own hype, and our own easily distorted reality. Added to all of that, we neglect to see the truth, which is a lie, in the fantasy world in which we are living.
Real love is love that you can feel, not from yourself, but from the one you are with. Although sex has a place in your love life, it is not the only factor. There is the caring, the joy of loving and being loved, the honest assessment of all that is around you, and the confidence that you will not end up alone.
It is up to you to find a common ground with your inner self. You are a beautiful person. You have a heart of solid gold. Once you come to the realization that you can not buy love with sex, you will be alright.
Written by John Roberts
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