Dating And Sex
As long as people have dated, there has been the question of having sex before marriage, and notwithstanding, dating and sex is an issue that has been, and is still being discussed in every segment of our society, in the home, school, church, and in politics.
Why is dating and sex such a hot topic? The answer to this question lies in the hearts and minds of those who are parents, teenagers, young adults, and almost everyone, who at one time or another in their lives, has been in a dating relationship.
Like most issues, everyone has an opinion. In a religious context, many people think that sex is a sacred act that should be put on hold until after marriage. There are legitimate concerns about rape and sexual abuse, sexually transmitted diseases (STD's), unwanted pregnancies, and the emotional scars that are left because of the results of making bad decisions.
When the subject of dating and pre-marital sex is brought up, most of us think of teenagers, but the truth goes far beyond youth. Many adults, both younger and older, often get caught up in the same dilemma, with unwanted pregnancies, STD's, and hurt feelings.
No matter how hard you try to skirt the subject, the topic of sex always comes up when dating. They are linked by human nature and, although sex is still discouraged until after marriage, it is difficult, at best, to suppress the feelings of romantic desires when dating someone you care about.
There are sexual pressures within our own being that manifests itself when we are in close proximity to others of the opposite sex. It makes us weak and vulnerable, yet, it is controllable. The question is, do we want to control it?
At some point, if you are really interested in someone romantically, and you are dating them, you will want to go to bed with them, and they will want to go to bed with you.
Some people think that having sex is a way of telling whether or not you are compatible with each other. In a limited sense, that may be true, but in a broader sense, there is much more to compatibility than sex, although sex does play a role.
For one thing, love is not sex and sex is not love. If you are dating, and you are having sex, it is important to make an up front distinction between sexual pleasures and what you want as the end results. Sex is great, but, is great sex going to lead to a wedding?
How you view dating and premarital sex is of great importance to you, your lifestyle, and the lifestyle of the person you are interested in. The best thing to do is to make sure you understand the consequences of having sex, or not having sex. Don't look to your heart for the answers, look to your head.
Think about what you want out of the relationship and talk to your date mate before having sex. Dating is not an exact science, and people do lie about how they feel and what they want out of a relationship. What you have to do is pay attention to the signs and signals that are given, and be prepared for the best, and the worst.
When you are dating someone, it does not automatically mean that you have to have sex with them. You always have a choice, and you should be in control at all times but you should never lead a person on about romantic feelings or sex.
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